PERFECTIONISM- Why You Should Embrace "Good Enough". The problem with perfectionism. Reviewed by Monica Vilhauer

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KEY POINTS-

  • Perfectionistic people strive really hard, but they’re no more likely to be successful.
  • For perfectionists, dialing down goals and aiming for excellence doesn’t usually work.
  • Learning to embrace imperfections and setbacks helps us to accept ourselves and keep moving forward.
Source: Character Lab
 
Source: Character Lab

Today, I’ve asked Thomas Curran to share his Tip of the Week.

“To get ahead in this world, don’t we need a little bit of perfectionism?”

As someone who has researched perfectionism for over a decade, I’m asked this question a lot. And I used to think that was true. It’s hard to succeed nowadays. You’ve got to sacrifice yourself, keep pushing well beyond what's comfortable, and live life on your tiptoes. That’s just the zero-sum nature of things in a lopsided society where there are only a few winners, I believed.

 

Yet, research finds that perfectionism has no relationship with performance. Perfectionistic people strive really hard, but they’re no more likely to be successful.

One reason is that perfectionistic people work hard but unsustainably so. They often find themselves in the sapping zone of diminishing and inverse returns on their efforts.

 

Another is that many perfectionists are world champions at self-sabotage. When things get tough, when it looks like failure is heading their way, the anticipated shame and embarrassment are so fierce that perfectionistic people are reluctant to put forth any further effort that might allow others to discover their shortcomings. So, they procrastinate or simply give up to ward off fears of failure.

 

In trying to avoid failure, perfectionists often do the very things that make failure more likely.

For perfectionists, dialing down goals and aiming for excellence instead doesn’t usually work. Rather, it’s important to learn to embrace the inevitability of setbacks, failures, and things not going quite as planned. It's important to be able to sit comfortably with these humanizing experiences, to let them be, and not need to rehabilitate them or drive them out of existence.

 

Don’t strive to be perfect.

Do recognize that perfectionism doesn’t lead to success. And help the young people in your life to embrace all of themselves, including their imperfections, for the astonishing little explosions of humanity that they are.

With compassion and gratitude,

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