Using a blindfold or an ice cube or fuzzy handcuffs you got at a bachelorette party are all relatively harmless beginner behaviors if you’re into them. But before you play around with some of the trickier tools, you need to learn how to do so safely. Even a rope or a whip can be dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing. On sites such as Big Tits OnlyFans users can find BDSM OnlyFans creators as well as guides and sample contracts to read before trying anything.

1. First things first: Here’s what BDSM actually stands for:

BDSM includes bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism & masochism (S&M). There are many site and groups available for people looking for bdsm dating.

2. It doesn’t always involve sex, but it can.

Most people think BDSM is always tied to sex, and while it can be for some people, others draw a hard line between the two. Both are bodily experiences that are very intense and sensual and cause a lot of very strong feelings in people who practice them, but they’re not the same thing,

3. There is nothing wrong with you just because you like BDSM

This is one of the most common and frustrating misconceptions about BDSM. BDSM isn’t something that emerges from abuse or domestic violence, and engaging in it does not mean that you enjoy abuse or abusing. My BDSM hookups has plenty of like minded people who are just the same.

4. You can always say No

If someone asks you to part take in bondage and BSDM and it’s not for you, use your words and tell them No. This is a universal word everyone understands and when you say No it means No.

5. BDSM doesn’t mean your relationship isn’t stable

Many people in long lasting happy relationships enjoy BDSM it doesn’t mean your not happy in your relationship it more than like means your very happy and fulfilled and excited to explore new avenues.

6. Fifty shades of grey is not true BDSM

This can be seen on both signs of the coin. Yes fifty shades does portray a dominating and bondage type relationship, although of the game variety.

Many people say it is not a hardcore BDSM relationship and that it’s correct. I would say it’s more of a romantic softly approach to bondage.

7. It’s not all whips and chains all the time — or ever, if that’s not your thing.

Sure, some S&M enthusiasts might have these in their arsenal, but it’s definitely not everyone’s cup of kink. Some people go for what’s called ‘sensual dominance,’ which is where there might be some toys or play but no pain involved at all. It’s more like one partner agrees to do everything the other person asks. BDSM doesn’t have to follow any pattern, and there is no one model for what a BDSM relationship can be.

8.It can be as simple or as technical as you want.

Maybe the thought of being tied up excites you, or you enjoy spanking or being spanked. Or maybe you’re more interested in leather masks and nipple clamps and hot wax. All of that (and obviously a lot more) is within the realm of BDSM. Basically, you can still be into kink without actually ever going to a dungeon.

9.Before you go past the VERY basics, do your research.

Using a blindfold or an ice cube or fuzzy handcuffs you got at a bachelorette party are all relatively harmless beginner behaviors if you’re into them. But before you play around with some of the trickier tools, you need to learn how to do so safely. Even a rope or a whip can be dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing. On sites such as Big Tits OnlyFans users can find BDSM OnlyFans creators as well as guides and sample contracts to read before trying anything.

10. Safe words are definitely a thing.

It might sound cheesy, but it’s a well-established norm in BDSM. (And hey, your safe word could actually be “cheesy” if you want. You do you.) Safe words are probably one of the most important norms that have spread across the community, even if people use them in different ways. For instance, not everyone uses safe words all the time after a while, but it’s important to start out with them. They can essentially be anything you want, as long as it’s something you wouldn’t normally should out during sex.

Have you ever tried BDSM or is it something you don’t have any interest in?