• Sunday Morning Prayers Of Gratitude & Blessings-

    Rejoicing In Sunday’s Blessings:
    Oh Heavenly and Gracious Father in Heaven, Hallowed be Thy Name. Thank You for this beautiful and glorious Sunday morning You have created for me today. For this day, I praise and honor Your name. This is the day that you have made, I will rejoice and be glad for all that You have in store for me.


    With every breath I take, I am reminded of the countless blessings You have showered upon me. The very gift of life, the love of family and friends, and the hope that each new day brings, all bear testament to Your unceasing goodness.

    On this Sunday, a day set aside to honor and glorify Your name, I take a moment to express my profound gratitude. For the trials that have molded me, for the joys that have uplifted me, and for the quiet moments of reflection that have drawn me closer to You, I offer my heartfelt thanks.


    As the world awakens to the possibilities of this blessed day, may my heart overflow with gratitude, recognizing every moment as a gift from You.

    Psalm 23:5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You have anointed my head with oil. My cup runs over.

    Psalm 118:24 This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

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    Sunday Morning Prayers Of Gratitude & Blessings
    A Heart Prepared For Worship
    Heavenly Father, as the dawn breaks on this sacred Sunday, I awaken with a heart ready to praise You. Sundays remind me of the resurrection, the victory over death, and Your unmatched love.


    As I prepare to join fellow believers in worship, quiet my mind, and focus my thoughts on You. Let every song, scripture, and sermon resonate deeply within me, guiding me closer to Your presence.


    Bless the hands and hearts that have prepared the service today. May the words spoken be inspired by Your Spirit, and may they serve as a balm to souls, including mine, that are in need of Your touch.

    As I lift my voice in praise, let it be a sweet sound to Your ears, and may my worship be a testament to my love and devotion to You.

    Psalm 122:1 I was glad when they said unto me, Let us go into the house of the LORD.

    John 4:24 God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.
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    Sunday Morning Gratitude
    Yahweh-Jireh, the Lord will provide, you are the God of More than enough, You are the God of abundance. Through You, Your servant David said: “my cup runs over.”

    I give You thanks that my needs are supplied and I am grateful for all You provide. Today I glory in Your presence great Father. I wonder and gaze upon the great works Your hands have made. Your splendor surrounds me every day.


    Thank you for sending Your Precious Son to die for my sins. You raised Him from the dead as You have raised me and called me to be Your own, bringing me into Your marvelous light. Amen.

    Numbers 6:24-25 The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you.

    Psalm 28:7 The Lord is my strength and my shield; in him my heart trusts.

    Sunday Prayer For Abundance At The Start Of The Week
    You are all mighty and worthy and we are so very honored that we serve a God of abundance. And out of Your abundance, we ask that You bless us. Multiply our every work so that our cup will run over. Let the springs of living water flow through us so that we may be a blessing to others. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray, Amen!

    Psalm 103:1 Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name!

    Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
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    Prayer For Daily Blessings
    Heavenly Father, on this blessed and wonderful Sunday, continue to bless us that we may be a blessing to others. Keep us strong that we may help the weak and rejected. Keep us uplifted that we may have words of encouragement for others.

    Bless those who are lost and can’t find their way. Comfort those who are misjudged and misunderstood. Heal the hurting and abused. Help us be a light of hope in their darkness. Amen.


    Matthew 14:23 After He had dismissed them, He went up on a mountainside by Himself to pray. When evening came, He was there alone.

    1st Thessalonians 5:18 – Thank God in everything. No matter what the circumstances may be, be thankful and give thanks. For this is the will of God for you who are in Christ Jesus, the Revealer and Mediator of that will.
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    Sunday Prayer Of Gratitude
    Dear Heavenly Father, I thank You for this day. I woke up this Sunday morning knowing that with God on my side, it is enough.

    I have faith and trust in You, Oh Lord. Everything will be going well. I rejoice and give God all the glory.

    Thank You Lord Jesus, for You have done so much for me. Continue to guide and direct my steps each and every day. In Jesus’ mighty name I pray. Amen and Amen.

    Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord you God goes with you: he will never leave you nor forsake you.


    Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

    Receiving And Giving Blessings
    Dear Lord, on this Sunday, I open my heart to receive the fullness of Your blessings. I believe that You have kept me through the past week, and I am grateful for the strength, wisdom, and grace You’ve granted me.

    As I count my blessings, my heart overflows with gratitude. But not just for me, Lord. Let these blessings be channels of love, hope, and joy to others. Use me as an instrument of Your peace.


    Grant me opportunities today to be a beacon of Your love. Whether it’s through a smile, a kind word, an act of generosity, or just by being present, let others feel Your warmth through me. Bless me so that I may bless others in Your name, turning their hearts towards You.

    2 Corinthians 9:8 And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.

    1 Peter 3:9 Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.
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    Blessings For The Day Ahead
    Ever-loving Father, as I stand on the threshold of this Sunday, I pray for blessings upon the day ahead. Bless our gatherings, that they may be filled with Your presence.

    May my worship be sincere, my fellowship genuine, and my service to others a reflection of Your love. As I navigate the many facets of this day, guide my thoughts, words, and actions, that they may align with Your will.


    Extend Your blessings upon those I encounter today. May the weary find rest, the sorrowful find comfort, and the lost find direction.

    As the day unfolds, let my actions be a testament to Your love, and may my heart remain rooted in gratitude, ever-aware of the countless blessings You bestow upon me and those around me.

    Numbers 6:24-26 The LORD bless you and keep you; the LORD make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the LORD lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.

    Philippians 4:19 And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
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    Prayer For Church Fellowship
    Oh Lord, I thank You for the blessing of fellowship. As I gather with others to worship and learn about You, may Your Holy Spirit guide our interactions. Let every song sung, every word spoken, and every prayer lifted up be pleasing to You.

    Heavenly Father, grant that our time together in church would be used to build each other up and draw each other closer to You. May our worship be genuine, our learning deep, and our fellowship sweet. In Jesus’ mighty name I pray. Amen and Amen.


    Matthew 18:20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.

    Hebrews 10:25 Not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
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    A Prayer For The Week Ahead
    Lord of Tomorrow, as this Sunday gradually gives way to the coming week, I lay before You all my plans, hopes, and concerns. I pray for guidance in every decision, strength in every challenge, and grace in every interaction.

    Let this week be one where Your presence is felt more profoundly in my life, guiding each step I take. Guard my heart against discouragement and protect my mind from anxiety.

    Fill my days with purpose and my nights with peace. As I venture into the new week, I carry with me the blessings and lessons from this Sunday, holding them close as a reminder of Your unending love and faithfulness.

    Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

    Psalm 90:17 May the favor of the Lord our God rest on us; establish the work of our hands for us—yes, establish the work of our hands.

    Sunday Prayer – Setting The Tone For A Blessed Week
    Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of this Sunday morning. Sunday, the first day of the week, signifies a fresh start and a new beginning. This is the day that You have made; I will rejoice and be glad in it. Help me to set the tone for the coming week, a tone of peace, joy, love, and hope.

    Lord, as I prepare for the activities of this Sunday, whether it involves attending church services, spending time with family, or finding moments of quiet rest, I ask for Your guidance. May this day be an offering of worship to You and an opportunity to reflect on Your love and faithfulness. Amen.

    Psalm 118:24 This is the day that the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

    Isaiah 58:13-14 If you keep your feet from breaking the Sabbath and from doing as you please on my holy day, if you call the Sabbath a delight and the LORD’s holy day honorable, and if you honor it by not going your own way and not doing as you please or speaking idle words, then you will find your joy in the LORD, and I will cause you to ride in triumph on the heights of the land and to feast on the inheritance of your father Jacob. For the mouth of the LORD has spoken.

    Prayer For Preparation For The New Week
    Oh Lord, I stand on the threshold of a new week, with its challenges and opportunities, its joys and sorrows. I do not know what this week holds for me, but I know that You hold it. Therefore, I commit the coming days into Your hands.

    Guide me, O Lord, through the decisions I must make, the tasks I must undertake, and the trials I may encounter. May this new week bear witness to Your grace at work in my life. In Jesus name I pray, Amen!

    Proverbs 16:9 In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps.

    Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
    Sunday Morning Prayers Of Gratitude & Blessings- Rejoicing In Sunday’s Blessings: Oh Heavenly and Gracious Father in Heaven, Hallowed be Thy Name. Thank You for this beautiful and glorious Sunday morning You have created for me today. For this day, I praise and honor Your name. This is the day that you have made, I will rejoice and be glad for all that You have in store for me. With every breath I take, I am reminded of the countless blessings You have showered upon me. The very gift of life, the love of family and friends, and the hope that each new day brings, all bear testament to Your unceasing goodness. On this Sunday, a day set aside to honor and glorify Your name, I take a moment to express my profound gratitude. For the trials that have molded me, for the joys that have uplifted me, and for the quiet moments of reflection that have drawn me closer to You, I offer my heartfelt thanks. As the world awakens to the possibilities of this blessed day, may my heart overflow with gratitude, recognizing every moment as a gift from You. Psalm 23:5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You have anointed my head with oil. My cup runs over. Psalm 118:24 This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it. ------------------------------------------ Sunday Morning Prayers Of Gratitude & Blessings A Heart Prepared For Worship Heavenly Father, as the dawn breaks on this sacred Sunday, I awaken with a heart ready to praise You. Sundays remind me of the resurrection, the victory over death, and Your unmatched love. As I prepare to join fellow believers in worship, quiet my mind, and focus my thoughts on You. Let every song, scripture, and sermon resonate deeply within me, guiding me closer to Your presence. Bless the hands and hearts that have prepared the service today. May the words spoken be inspired by Your Spirit, and may they serve as a balm to souls, including mine, that are in need of Your touch. As I lift my voice in praise, let it be a sweet sound to Your ears, and may my worship be a testament to my love and devotion to You. Psalm 122:1 I was glad when they said unto me, Let us go into the house of the LORD. John 4:24 God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth. ------------------------------------------------ Sunday Morning Gratitude Yahweh-Jireh, the Lord will provide, you are the God of More than enough, You are the God of abundance. Through You, Your servant David said: “my cup runs over.” I give You thanks that my needs are supplied and I am grateful for all You provide. Today I glory in Your presence great Father. I wonder and gaze upon the great works Your hands have made. Your splendor surrounds me every day. Thank you for sending Your Precious Son to die for my sins. You raised Him from the dead as You have raised me and called me to be Your own, bringing me into Your marvelous light. Amen. Numbers 6:24-25 The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. Psalm 28:7 The Lord is my strength and my shield; in him my heart trusts. Sunday Prayer For Abundance At The Start Of The Week You are all mighty and worthy and we are so very honored that we serve a God of abundance. And out of Your abundance, we ask that You bless us. Multiply our every work so that our cup will run over. Let the springs of living water flow through us so that we may be a blessing to others. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray, Amen! Psalm 103:1 Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name! Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. ------------------------------------------------ Prayer For Daily Blessings Heavenly Father, on this blessed and wonderful Sunday, continue to bless us that we may be a blessing to others. Keep us strong that we may help the weak and rejected. Keep us uplifted that we may have words of encouragement for others. Bless those who are lost and can’t find their way. Comfort those who are misjudged and misunderstood. Heal the hurting and abused. Help us be a light of hope in their darkness. Amen. Matthew 14:23 After He had dismissed them, He went up on a mountainside by Himself to pray. When evening came, He was there alone. 1st Thessalonians 5:18 – Thank God in everything. No matter what the circumstances may be, be thankful and give thanks. For this is the will of God for you who are in Christ Jesus, the Revealer and Mediator of that will. ----------------------------------------------- Sunday Prayer Of Gratitude Dear Heavenly Father, I thank You for this day. I woke up this Sunday morning knowing that with God on my side, it is enough. I have faith and trust in You, Oh Lord. Everything will be going well. I rejoice and give God all the glory. Thank You Lord Jesus, for You have done so much for me. Continue to guide and direct my steps each and every day. In Jesus’ mighty name I pray. Amen and Amen. Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord you God goes with you: he will never leave you nor forsake you. Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Receiving And Giving Blessings Dear Lord, on this Sunday, I open my heart to receive the fullness of Your blessings. I believe that You have kept me through the past week, and I am grateful for the strength, wisdom, and grace You’ve granted me. As I count my blessings, my heart overflows with gratitude. But not just for me, Lord. Let these blessings be channels of love, hope, and joy to others. Use me as an instrument of Your peace. Grant me opportunities today to be a beacon of Your love. Whether it’s through a smile, a kind word, an act of generosity, or just by being present, let others feel Your warmth through me. Bless me so that I may bless others in Your name, turning their hearts towards You. 2 Corinthians 9:8 And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. 1 Peter 3:9 Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. ---------------------------------------------- Blessings For The Day Ahead Ever-loving Father, as I stand on the threshold of this Sunday, I pray for blessings upon the day ahead. Bless our gatherings, that they may be filled with Your presence. May my worship be sincere, my fellowship genuine, and my service to others a reflection of Your love. As I navigate the many facets of this day, guide my thoughts, words, and actions, that they may align with Your will. Extend Your blessings upon those I encounter today. May the weary find rest, the sorrowful find comfort, and the lost find direction. As the day unfolds, let my actions be a testament to Your love, and may my heart remain rooted in gratitude, ever-aware of the countless blessings You bestow upon me and those around me. Numbers 6:24-26 The LORD bless you and keep you; the LORD make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the LORD lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace. Philippians 4:19 And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. ----------------------------------------------- Prayer For Church Fellowship Oh Lord, I thank You for the blessing of fellowship. As I gather with others to worship and learn about You, may Your Holy Spirit guide our interactions. Let every song sung, every word spoken, and every prayer lifted up be pleasing to You. Heavenly Father, grant that our time together in church would be used to build each other up and draw each other closer to You. May our worship be genuine, our learning deep, and our fellowship sweet. In Jesus’ mighty name I pray. Amen and Amen. Matthew 18:20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them. Hebrews 10:25 Not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching. ------------------------------------------------ A Prayer For The Week Ahead Lord of Tomorrow, as this Sunday gradually gives way to the coming week, I lay before You all my plans, hopes, and concerns. I pray for guidance in every decision, strength in every challenge, and grace in every interaction. Let this week be one where Your presence is felt more profoundly in my life, guiding each step I take. Guard my heart against discouragement and protect my mind from anxiety. Fill my days with purpose and my nights with peace. As I venture into the new week, I carry with me the blessings and lessons from this Sunday, holding them close as a reminder of Your unending love and faithfulness. Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Psalm 90:17 May the favor of the Lord our God rest on us; establish the work of our hands for us—yes, establish the work of our hands. Sunday Prayer – Setting The Tone For A Blessed Week Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of this Sunday morning. Sunday, the first day of the week, signifies a fresh start and a new beginning. This is the day that You have made; I will rejoice and be glad in it. Help me to set the tone for the coming week, a tone of peace, joy, love, and hope. Lord, as I prepare for the activities of this Sunday, whether it involves attending church services, spending time with family, or finding moments of quiet rest, I ask for Your guidance. May this day be an offering of worship to You and an opportunity to reflect on Your love and faithfulness. Amen. Psalm 118:24 This is the day that the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it. Isaiah 58:13-14 If you keep your feet from breaking the Sabbath and from doing as you please on my holy day, if you call the Sabbath a delight and the LORD’s holy day honorable, and if you honor it by not going your own way and not doing as you please or speaking idle words, then you will find your joy in the LORD, and I will cause you to ride in triumph on the heights of the land and to feast on the inheritance of your father Jacob. For the mouth of the LORD has spoken. Prayer For Preparation For The New Week Oh Lord, I stand on the threshold of a new week, with its challenges and opportunities, its joys and sorrows. I do not know what this week holds for me, but I know that You hold it. Therefore, I commit the coming days into Your hands. Guide me, O Lord, through the decisions I must make, the tasks I must undertake, and the trials I may encounter. May this new week bear witness to Your grace at work in my life. In Jesus name I pray, Amen! Proverbs 16:9 In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
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  • The Power Imbalance That Causes Most Fights in Relationships.
    A simple equation might fix them.
    Reviewed by Ekua Hagan

    KEY POINTS-
    Power imbalances may be at the core of relationship conflicts.
    Complex tasks may be hard to assign, but authority over simple tasks can be given to one partner at a time.
    Respecting a partner's authority over their small tasks may lead to more harmony when taking joint responsibility for complex tasks.

    In Principles of Social Psychology, the authors discuss authority and power. They write1: "One of the fundamental aspects of social interaction is that some individuals have more influence than others. Social power can be defined as the ability of a person to create conformity even when the people being influenced may attempt to resist those changes."

    In this discussion, power and authority are nearly synonymous, except that some argue that authority carries with it an ongoing need for “legitimacy” via "influence" in the eyes of others.

    From a mathematical standpoint, they form an “identity” in that:
    Authority = Power
    Power = Authority
    If you have one, then you automatically have the other, so long as you maintain the "legitimate influence" over others to respect your boundaries.

    I believe this arises from allowing them the dignity to seize authority over their personal resources. When absent, it leads to a "power imbalance."

    Many studies surround power, authority, responsibility, and legitimacy in the corporate world. Still, we might wonder if the rules are different when it comes to intimate relationships.

    Corporate power has necessary hierarchies for task assignment and completion. In contrast, no person in their right mind would enter a lasting intimate relationship without the expectation of interpersonal equality and fairness.

    Two romantic partners bring a host of personal resources to the joint pursuit of goals in the form of their time, energy, ideas, and freedom of decision. They also bring monetary earnings known to be the source of many a conflict between couples.

    The former kind of resource is immeasurable in currency, while the latter is measurable.

    As we look at a major source of fighting between intimates, we might take note of the confusion that can arise between the two types of resources leading to inadvertently cutting down the other's sense of dignity. As I once overheard a person at a neighboring restaurant table say: "I'm not your employee! I'm your spouse!"

    In the din of blaring cartoon voices on the television, screaming children who refuse to get dressed for school, and the upcoming meeting at the office to attend on time—after struggling through rush hour traffic—which partner was to do what responsibility may get scuttled and result in mutual blame.

    What if there was a simple tool for clearing up the vast number of conflicts between partners over their authority, legitimacy, responsibility, and accountability—their power imbalances?

    The tool we need is an “equation of power balance” that is also a "mathematical identity" equation.

    The Equation of Power Balance Is "Responsibility = Authority"

    In the Bible, Jacob famously wrestled an angel and was injured for life as a reminder that being granted authority must also carry responsibility (in his demands for a blessing).

    As Julia Romanenkova writes2: "Authority is the power delegated by senior executives to assign duties to all employees for better functioning. Responsibility is the commitment to fulfill a task given by an executive. Accountability makes a person answerable for his or her work based on their position, strength, and skills."

    Authority assumes responsibility, and responsibility necessarily must carry authority to get tasks completed successfully.

    There is no agreement in a romantic relationship, marriage, or friendship where one person is an executive employing a “subordinate.” In these intimate relationships of partners or friends, they came to the relationship in the first place as equals, but poor boundaries erode this equality.

    If responsibility demands your personal resources to complete a task, then good boundaries dictate that you inherently own authority over your resources.

    Partners also expect sharing of joint responsibility and spending of resources to achieve their mutual, complex goals. That joint effort won't work without mature boundaries around personal versus shared resources.

    What Are Your Psychological Resources Worth?
    Doing the dishes must be worth something.

    Transporting children must be worth something.
    Researching the logistics of the next vacation must be worth something.

    But what?
    One possible solution to the lack of a "currency of psychological resources" rests in the time, energy, and decisional freedom we surrender to have employment. Employment equals dollar amounts that we do then turn and invest into the goals of the relationship.

    Therefore, spending dollars on a task equals the time, energy, and surrender of personal freedom we originally “spent” in employment to get the dollars.

    Suppose most people with good boundaries find personal dignity in wielding authority over how those personal dollars—and the personal resources that generated them—are spent. In that case, we might conclude, "If I have 100 percent responsibility for a task, then the exact value I invest in completing it should exactly equal the authority I have over why, when, and how it is completed.”

    A problem arises in large and complex responsibilities such as a domicile or child-rearing over the long term. In such as these, the division of responsibility is split to something between less than 100 percent/0 percent and 50 percent/50 percent.

    Psychological Currency Exchange
    Even if it were possible to know every detail in the value of labor, time, energy, and money each partner contributes to the relationship, it might not be physically possible to share every thought or action they've expended for the benefit of the relationship or family.

    For example, one partner may say, “I pay the entire mortgage every month. Can’t you take care of all the kids’ medical appointments?”

    Another might say, “You don’t even know what it’s like to clean an entire house daily amid constant noise and screaming, then find it just as dirty and messy again within hours. There’s no monetary amount that you can place on that!”

    To which the more financially resourced partner might say, “Well, how much is that worth? $10,000? $100,000? This is the most expensive housecleaning and childcare I have ever heard of!”

    While many costs can be measured in money, many contributions toward the couple's goals cannot have a dollar value assigned to them, and couples that get lost in this circular argument are missing the point.

    Using "Responsibility = Authority" Responsibly
    Trying to devise methods of tabulating joint resource value —the percentage split of the complex responsibilities (overall house, child, or financial management)—can be fruitless.

    Instead, try using this principle on small tasks that require 100 percent responsibility of one partner at a time, where that partner may assume 100 percent authority over the task's "why, when, and how."

    When the other partner disagrees or impinges on the boundaries of accomplishing the task, this can serve as a talking point on values later, much like in the techniques of the Gottman Method3.

    Remember how we covered that legitimacy and influence support authority? If someone intrudes on your boundaries, they may not realize this lowers the legitimacy of their own authority.

    It negates some of their influence on you.
    Disrespect of your authority over small tasks then lowers their relational authority with you in the complex tasks.

    When a partner intrudes on the boundary of your authority/responsibility, the degree of intrusion may reveal the degree of narcissism in the person. The ego defenses of George Valliant4 and the character virtues of Martin Seligman's positive psychology of "emotional intelligence" give us precise guidelines and measures of this.

    If we respect a partner's authority/responsibility over their small tasks, it may lead to more harmony in the joint responsibility/authority in the complex tasks that bond us as "on the same page" in life and love.

    Zach Brittle of the Gottman Institute writes5: "The thought of relinquishing these cherished gifts is difficult to accept. I know, because I’m not that great at it. I love feeling strong and right. I love winning. But I can tell you with certainty that when it comes to relationships, if one partner is 'winning,' then both partners are losing. That’s why it’s critical that you (both) learn to accept your partner’s influence."

    In fact, like Gottman’s “bids” in marriage—when many little opportunities for granting due authority for a partner's small tasks arise—they might add up over years “in the emotional bank account” to help save or preserve the partnership or friendship.
    The Power Imbalance That Causes Most Fights in Relationships. A simple equation might fix them. Reviewed by Ekua Hagan KEY POINTS- Power imbalances may be at the core of relationship conflicts. Complex tasks may be hard to assign, but authority over simple tasks can be given to one partner at a time. Respecting a partner's authority over their small tasks may lead to more harmony when taking joint responsibility for complex tasks. In Principles of Social Psychology, the authors discuss authority and power. They write1: "One of the fundamental aspects of social interaction is that some individuals have more influence than others. Social power can be defined as the ability of a person to create conformity even when the people being influenced may attempt to resist those changes." In this discussion, power and authority are nearly synonymous, except that some argue that authority carries with it an ongoing need for “legitimacy” via "influence" in the eyes of others. From a mathematical standpoint, they form an “identity” in that: Authority = Power Power = Authority If you have one, then you automatically have the other, so long as you maintain the "legitimate influence" over others to respect your boundaries. I believe this arises from allowing them the dignity to seize authority over their personal resources. When absent, it leads to a "power imbalance." Many studies surround power, authority, responsibility, and legitimacy in the corporate world. Still, we might wonder if the rules are different when it comes to intimate relationships. Corporate power has necessary hierarchies for task assignment and completion. In contrast, no person in their right mind would enter a lasting intimate relationship without the expectation of interpersonal equality and fairness. Two romantic partners bring a host of personal resources to the joint pursuit of goals in the form of their time, energy, ideas, and freedom of decision. They also bring monetary earnings known to be the source of many a conflict between couples. The former kind of resource is immeasurable in currency, while the latter is measurable. As we look at a major source of fighting between intimates, we might take note of the confusion that can arise between the two types of resources leading to inadvertently cutting down the other's sense of dignity. As I once overheard a person at a neighboring restaurant table say: "I'm not your employee! I'm your spouse!" In the din of blaring cartoon voices on the television, screaming children who refuse to get dressed for school, and the upcoming meeting at the office to attend on time—after struggling through rush hour traffic—which partner was to do what responsibility may get scuttled and result in mutual blame. What if there was a simple tool for clearing up the vast number of conflicts between partners over their authority, legitimacy, responsibility, and accountability—their power imbalances? The tool we need is an “equation of power balance” that is also a "mathematical identity" equation. The Equation of Power Balance Is "Responsibility = Authority" In the Bible, Jacob famously wrestled an angel and was injured for life as a reminder that being granted authority must also carry responsibility (in his demands for a blessing). As Julia Romanenkova writes2: "Authority is the power delegated by senior executives to assign duties to all employees for better functioning. Responsibility is the commitment to fulfill a task given by an executive. Accountability makes a person answerable for his or her work based on their position, strength, and skills." Authority assumes responsibility, and responsibility necessarily must carry authority to get tasks completed successfully. There is no agreement in a romantic relationship, marriage, or friendship where one person is an executive employing a “subordinate.” In these intimate relationships of partners or friends, they came to the relationship in the first place as equals, but poor boundaries erode this equality. If responsibility demands your personal resources to complete a task, then good boundaries dictate that you inherently own authority over your resources. Partners also expect sharing of joint responsibility and spending of resources to achieve their mutual, complex goals. That joint effort won't work without mature boundaries around personal versus shared resources. What Are Your Psychological Resources Worth? Doing the dishes must be worth something. Transporting children must be worth something. Researching the logistics of the next vacation must be worth something. But what? One possible solution to the lack of a "currency of psychological resources" rests in the time, energy, and decisional freedom we surrender to have employment. Employment equals dollar amounts that we do then turn and invest into the goals of the relationship. Therefore, spending dollars on a task equals the time, energy, and surrender of personal freedom we originally “spent” in employment to get the dollars. Suppose most people with good boundaries find personal dignity in wielding authority over how those personal dollars—and the personal resources that generated them—are spent. In that case, we might conclude, "If I have 100 percent responsibility for a task, then the exact value I invest in completing it should exactly equal the authority I have over why, when, and how it is completed.” A problem arises in large and complex responsibilities such as a domicile or child-rearing over the long term. In such as these, the division of responsibility is split to something between less than 100 percent/0 percent and 50 percent/50 percent. Psychological Currency Exchange Even if it were possible to know every detail in the value of labor, time, energy, and money each partner contributes to the relationship, it might not be physically possible to share every thought or action they've expended for the benefit of the relationship or family. For example, one partner may say, “I pay the entire mortgage every month. Can’t you take care of all the kids’ medical appointments?” Another might say, “You don’t even know what it’s like to clean an entire house daily amid constant noise and screaming, then find it just as dirty and messy again within hours. There’s no monetary amount that you can place on that!” To which the more financially resourced partner might say, “Well, how much is that worth? $10,000? $100,000? This is the most expensive housecleaning and childcare I have ever heard of!” While many costs can be measured in money, many contributions toward the couple's goals cannot have a dollar value assigned to them, and couples that get lost in this circular argument are missing the point. Using "Responsibility = Authority" Responsibly Trying to devise methods of tabulating joint resource value —the percentage split of the complex responsibilities (overall house, child, or financial management)—can be fruitless. Instead, try using this principle on small tasks that require 100 percent responsibility of one partner at a time, where that partner may assume 100 percent authority over the task's "why, when, and how." When the other partner disagrees or impinges on the boundaries of accomplishing the task, this can serve as a talking point on values later, much like in the techniques of the Gottman Method3. Remember how we covered that legitimacy and influence support authority? If someone intrudes on your boundaries, they may not realize this lowers the legitimacy of their own authority. It negates some of their influence on you. Disrespect of your authority over small tasks then lowers their relational authority with you in the complex tasks. When a partner intrudes on the boundary of your authority/responsibility, the degree of intrusion may reveal the degree of narcissism in the person. The ego defenses of George Valliant4 and the character virtues of Martin Seligman's positive psychology of "emotional intelligence" give us precise guidelines and measures of this. If we respect a partner's authority/responsibility over their small tasks, it may lead to more harmony in the joint responsibility/authority in the complex tasks that bond us as "on the same page" in life and love. Zach Brittle of the Gottman Institute writes5: "The thought of relinquishing these cherished gifts is difficult to accept. I know, because I’m not that great at it. I love feeling strong and right. I love winning. But I can tell you with certainty that when it comes to relationships, if one partner is 'winning,' then both partners are losing. That’s why it’s critical that you (both) learn to accept your partner’s influence." In fact, like Gottman’s “bids” in marriage—when many little opportunities for granting due authority for a partner's small tasks arise—they might add up over years “in the emotional bank account” to help save or preserve the partnership or friendship.
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