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  • Keanu Reeves once said:

    "I’m at the stage in life where I stay out of arguments. Even if you say 1+1=5, you’re right. Have fun."

    “I'm Mickey Mouse. They don't know who's inside the suit.”

    “Multi-culture is the real culture of the world — a pure race doesn’t exist.”

    “I dream of a day where I walk down the street & hear people talk about morality, sustainability & philosophy instead of the Kardashians.”

    “Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily lives that we forget to take the time out to enjoy the beauty in life.
    It’s like we’re zombies.

    “I'm a meathead, man. You've got smart people, and you've got dumb people. I just happen to be dumb.”

    “I don’t understand why people get mad when they get rejected by somebody or something.

    They have done you a favor by not wasting your time and playing with you.”

    “If you’re too tired to speak, sit next to me, because I too, am fluent in silence.”

    “Money doesn't mean anything to me

    I've made a lot of money, but I want to enjoy life and not stress myself building my bank account…

    I give lots away and live simply, mostly out of a suitcase in hotels.

    We all know that good health is much more important”

    “Someone told me the other day that he felt bad for single people because they are lonely...

    I said that’s not true I’m single & I don’t feel lonely. I take myself out to eat.

    Once you know how to take care of yourself company becomes an option and not a necessity.”

    Men, are you struggling with consistency, focus & discipline?

    Are you suffering from issues that no one talks about?

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  • PEDOPHILIA OCD-
    Can Sex Dolls Prevent Criminal Sexual Behavior?
    The limitations of research prevent us from drawing conclusions at this time.
    Reviewed by Lybi Ma

    KEY POINTS-
    Many countries and states are passing laws to criminalize ownership of child sex dolls.
    Pedophilic men with child sex dolls often report non-sexual motivation for ownership, and develop relationships with the dolls.
    Men who own such dolls self-report less interest in real-world criminal sexual behaviors.

    For several years, a complex social debate has raged regarding the effects and potential risks of ownership of silicon sex dolls, made to look like human children. Beyond the simple reaction of revulsion that many people feel to such behavior, there are real questions as to what impact these dolls may have on their owners, and specifically their risk of engaging in sexual abuse of real human children or participating in the consumption or distribution of child sexual abuse material (CSAM).

    Everyone involved in these debates wants to protect children from sexual exploitation. Finally, the ethics of such experimentation has been challenged, with arguments that such dolls or robots should be banned.

    Across the world, numerous men have been prosecuted for purchasing these dolls, typically from manufacturers in China. In many cases, the dolls were intercepted by authorities before delivery. And in many of these cases, further investigation by authorities found that the men had CSAM on their devices or computers, and the men were prosecuted for possessing such material.

    In a few early cases, esoteric laws against importing prohibited materials were used to prosecute the men, and in some cases, the skin of the doll was argued in court to reflect the nude, sexualized image of a child and the man prosecuted for possession.

    Currently, numerous states in the United States have passed or are currently enacting laws prohibiting the importation, sale, or ownership of such dolls, as have several other countries around the world. Unfortunately, at this point, we know rather little about the impact that such dolls may have. Based on past research with individuals who possess CSAM, it is likely that the effect is complicated, and that there may be little clear connection to contact sexual offending. Past research has indicated that factors of antisocial personality, low empathy, impaired impulse control, and substance abuse have a greater likelihood to increase risk of sexual abuse of children, compared to possessing CSAM.

    In August of 2022, researchers Harper and Lievesley published in The Archives of Sexual Behavior, after comparing the psychology of persons sexually attracted to children who owned child sex dolls, to those who did not. The researchers recruited online and found 85 individuals who owned such dolls, whose results they then compared to 120 individuals who did not. All of these individuals self-reported sexual interest in children. About 80 percent of the individuals who did not own such dolls reported interest in having one. Surprisingly, sexual reasons for ownership were not the primary reported motivations – emotional intimacy, companionship and fantasy play were endorsed as frequently as sexual interests. The owners of such dolls did report that they were sexual with the dolls more frequently than with adult human partners, compared to non-owners.

    But, surprisingly, the owners of such dolls were found to be less antisocial and reported less arousal at the idea of actually sexually abusing a child, compared to those who did not own such dolls. Given that antisocial traits are a high predictor of contact sex offending against children, and that the owners of such dolls appear to have a high level of emotional and relational connection to the dolls, it suggests that owning such dolls may not significantly predict a higher risk of offending against children. Child doll owners were more likely to have odd personality types, which might interfere in them having normal human relationships, and create greater loneliness, perhaps motivating ownership of dolls with whom they can have one-sided fantasy relationships. When researchers examined the intentions, and past offending behaviors of the child doll owners, they found no results suggesting such individuals were at higher risk of future sexual offending against children.

    A recently published study in The Journal of Sex Research by Desbuleux and Fuss went further, exploring how owning either an adult or a child sex doll impacted the owners’ sexual fantasies, behaviors, and preoccupations, especially in regard to criminal sexual behaviors. A total of 224 men were studied, with about 23 of them being individuals who possessed child sex dolls and had pedophilic sexual interests.

    In this study, owners of sex dolls reported a general decrease in potentially problematic sex behaviors at large, including watching pornography or visiting sex workers, though men who had adult human intimate relationships experienced less of such effect. Men with pedophilic tendencies reported the greatest decrease in compulsive or problematic sexual behaviors, from owning a child sex doll.

    Consistent with Harper and Lievesley, the current research found that men who owned and used child sex dolls reported decreased interest in real-world sexual offending against children and greater likelihood of exploring their illegal fantasies with the doll.

    Unfortunately, all current studies of the impact of child sex doll ownership share significant limitations. All are self-report, in terms of both ownership of dolls, as well as real-world sexual and criminal behaviors. They are correlational and do not include longitudinal data that follows these individuals over time, to best minimize the effects of retrospective reports. Finally, they are based only on those individuals who actually possess such dolls, and, given the significant expense of such dolls (over $2000), this population seems unlikely to be a true reflection of men at risk for sexual offending.

    Finally, given that many arrests of individuals with child sex dolls appear to have also found that such men are at risk of possessing illegal recordings of child sexual abuse material, future research may need to explore this behavior as well, and attempt to sort out the effects of the doll, from the effects or impact of illegal pornography. As a result, we simply cannot draw any real conclusions about the impact of these dolls at this time.

    However, combined, these two studies do raise potential challenges to social and legal concerns that these dolls may increase the likelihood of engaging in sexual abuse of real children. The dolls may decrease feelings of loneliness and provide an outlet for fantasies of illegal sexual behaviors, where no child is harmed. Attempts to regulate and prohibit such behaviors appear, at this time, to be primarily driven by feelings of disgust and anger at those who hold such desires, with the intent to punish, ostracize and eradicate those who have such pedophilic interests.

    Everyone wants to protect children. But sadly, such social attitudes do not appear to suppress such behaviors but may increase feelings of loneliness and anger in such individuals, paradoxically increasing the risk of them acting in harmful ways toward real children. We may at some point face the challenging dilemma of choosing between our disgust versus actually reducing the risk of children being harmed.
    PEDOPHILIA OCD- Can Sex Dolls Prevent Criminal Sexual Behavior? The limitations of research prevent us from drawing conclusions at this time. Reviewed by Lybi Ma KEY POINTS- Many countries and states are passing laws to criminalize ownership of child sex dolls. Pedophilic men with child sex dolls often report non-sexual motivation for ownership, and develop relationships with the dolls. Men who own such dolls self-report less interest in real-world criminal sexual behaviors. For several years, a complex social debate has raged regarding the effects and potential risks of ownership of silicon sex dolls, made to look like human children. Beyond the simple reaction of revulsion that many people feel to such behavior, there are real questions as to what impact these dolls may have on their owners, and specifically their risk of engaging in sexual abuse of real human children or participating in the consumption or distribution of child sexual abuse material (CSAM). Everyone involved in these debates wants to protect children from sexual exploitation. Finally, the ethics of such experimentation has been challenged, with arguments that such dolls or robots should be banned. Across the world, numerous men have been prosecuted for purchasing these dolls, typically from manufacturers in China. In many cases, the dolls were intercepted by authorities before delivery. And in many of these cases, further investigation by authorities found that the men had CSAM on their devices or computers, and the men were prosecuted for possessing such material. In a few early cases, esoteric laws against importing prohibited materials were used to prosecute the men, and in some cases, the skin of the doll was argued in court to reflect the nude, sexualized image of a child and the man prosecuted for possession. Currently, numerous states in the United States have passed or are currently enacting laws prohibiting the importation, sale, or ownership of such dolls, as have several other countries around the world. Unfortunately, at this point, we know rather little about the impact that such dolls may have. Based on past research with individuals who possess CSAM, it is likely that the effect is complicated, and that there may be little clear connection to contact sexual offending. Past research has indicated that factors of antisocial personality, low empathy, impaired impulse control, and substance abuse have a greater likelihood to increase risk of sexual abuse of children, compared to possessing CSAM. In August of 2022, researchers Harper and Lievesley published in The Archives of Sexual Behavior, after comparing the psychology of persons sexually attracted to children who owned child sex dolls, to those who did not. The researchers recruited online and found 85 individuals who owned such dolls, whose results they then compared to 120 individuals who did not. All of these individuals self-reported sexual interest in children. About 80 percent of the individuals who did not own such dolls reported interest in having one. Surprisingly, sexual reasons for ownership were not the primary reported motivations – emotional intimacy, companionship and fantasy play were endorsed as frequently as sexual interests. The owners of such dolls did report that they were sexual with the dolls more frequently than with adult human partners, compared to non-owners. But, surprisingly, the owners of such dolls were found to be less antisocial and reported less arousal at the idea of actually sexually abusing a child, compared to those who did not own such dolls. Given that antisocial traits are a high predictor of contact sex offending against children, and that the owners of such dolls appear to have a high level of emotional and relational connection to the dolls, it suggests that owning such dolls may not significantly predict a higher risk of offending against children. Child doll owners were more likely to have odd personality types, which might interfere in them having normal human relationships, and create greater loneliness, perhaps motivating ownership of dolls with whom they can have one-sided fantasy relationships. When researchers examined the intentions, and past offending behaviors of the child doll owners, they found no results suggesting such individuals were at higher risk of future sexual offending against children. A recently published study in The Journal of Sex Research by Desbuleux and Fuss went further, exploring how owning either an adult or a child sex doll impacted the owners’ sexual fantasies, behaviors, and preoccupations, especially in regard to criminal sexual behaviors. A total of 224 men were studied, with about 23 of them being individuals who possessed child sex dolls and had pedophilic sexual interests. In this study, owners of sex dolls reported a general decrease in potentially problematic sex behaviors at large, including watching pornography or visiting sex workers, though men who had adult human intimate relationships experienced less of such effect. Men with pedophilic tendencies reported the greatest decrease in compulsive or problematic sexual behaviors, from owning a child sex doll. Consistent with Harper and Lievesley, the current research found that men who owned and used child sex dolls reported decreased interest in real-world sexual offending against children and greater likelihood of exploring their illegal fantasies with the doll. Unfortunately, all current studies of the impact of child sex doll ownership share significant limitations. All are self-report, in terms of both ownership of dolls, as well as real-world sexual and criminal behaviors. They are correlational and do not include longitudinal data that follows these individuals over time, to best minimize the effects of retrospective reports. Finally, they are based only on those individuals who actually possess such dolls, and, given the significant expense of such dolls (over $2000), this population seems unlikely to be a true reflection of men at risk for sexual offending. Finally, given that many arrests of individuals with child sex dolls appear to have also found that such men are at risk of possessing illegal recordings of child sexual abuse material, future research may need to explore this behavior as well, and attempt to sort out the effects of the doll, from the effects or impact of illegal pornography. As a result, we simply cannot draw any real conclusions about the impact of these dolls at this time. However, combined, these two studies do raise potential challenges to social and legal concerns that these dolls may increase the likelihood of engaging in sexual abuse of real children. The dolls may decrease feelings of loneliness and provide an outlet for fantasies of illegal sexual behaviors, where no child is harmed. Attempts to regulate and prohibit such behaviors appear, at this time, to be primarily driven by feelings of disgust and anger at those who hold such desires, with the intent to punish, ostracize and eradicate those who have such pedophilic interests. Everyone wants to protect children. But sadly, such social attitudes do not appear to suppress such behaviors but may increase feelings of loneliness and anger in such individuals, paradoxically increasing the risk of them acting in harmful ways toward real children. We may at some point face the challenging dilemma of choosing between our disgust versus actually reducing the risk of children being harmed.
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  • When Self-Pleasure Habits Get in the Way of Partnered Sex.
    The neuroscience behind our sexual patterns.
    Reviewed by Michelle Quirk

    KEY POINTS-
    The more ways you can experience sexual pleasure, and the more pleasure you can generate, the more likely you are to reach orgasm.
    When you bring yourself to orgasm in a specific way, you’re strengthening a neural pathway in your brain.
    It takes time to build a new neural pathway.

    If I could give one piece of sex advice to everyone, it would be this: “Switch it up on a regular basis!”

    The more ways you can develop for experiencing sexual pleasure, and the more pleasure you can generate, the more likely you are to reach orgasm, whether alone or with a partner. The more different routes you have to orgasm on your own, the more likely you will find a way to reach orgasm with a partner. And the more different routes you have to orgasm with a partner, the more likely you are to experience pleasure even when life throws a wrench into things and certain activities aren’t possible for one reason or another.

    Most people who reliably reach orgasm have one primary way of doing so. It is perfectly understandable that people go with what works; why argue with success? Our cultural expectation seems to be that sex isn’t “real sex” unless there is an orgasm, and not only that, an orgasm that someone else “gave” us. So once we figure out how to “give our partner an orgasm”, we tend to stick with that strategy rather than continue to explore and risk not “getting it right”, “being a bad lover” or just missing the orgasm entirely some of the time.

    Here’s the problem: the more you focus on just one way of reaching orgasm or experiencing pleasure, the more likely you are to get stuck in a rut. When you bring yourself to orgasm in a specific way, you’re strengthening a neural pathway in your brain. Every time you do the same thing, that pathway gets stronger. Unless you switch it up and cultivate other ways of reaching orgasm, it becomes harder and harder to do so in any other way.

    There are lots of ways this might look:
    I self-pleasure by rubbing myself against something, and I can’t get that same feeling and reach orgasm with a partner
    I self-pleasure while watching porn, and find it hard to reach orgasm with a partner
    I can’t reach orgasm without a particular fantasy, and that makes me uncomfortable; I’d rather be able to do it without that particular fantasy
    I self-pleasure dry (or with a tight hand), and then when I have penis-in-vagina sex with my partner, the sensation just isn’t strong enough to get over the edge

    All of these examples point to a particular pathway to orgasm, involving a combination of thoughts, images, novel stimuli, types of touch, amount of slipperiness, amount of pressure, broad versus specific stimulation, etc.

    The key to shifting a habitual neural pathway to orgasm is to start to change it up. Let me be clear; this is not always easy, nor is it something most people can accomplish quickly. That’s why an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure! If you already have multiple ways you can experience high levels of sexual pleasure, make sure to use all of them to get to orgasm, not just the easiest one.

    And if you are in a rut, consider what is different between the way you most easily reach orgasm and the way you and your partner have sex. Think about all the components of the interaction. Then begin experimenting with shifting one or two things more toward a sensation or visual stimulation that partnered sex can match. Here are some specific suggestions:

    If you watch porn, watch just one video all the way through rather than clicking between many. Get used to arousal ebbing and flowing, and returning, even when the “action” is a little slower and less novel
    If you touch yourself without lube, try using lube. Partner sex is often slicker than solo sex, although not always. If the opposite is true, try using less lube.
    If you rub against something, try placing your hand between the object and your body. Gradually shift how much of the sensation is coming from diffuse pressure versus your hand moving, or specific touch.
    If you have a favorite fantasy, see if you can develop a second-runner-up fantasy. See if you can come up with one that has some things in common with sexy aspects of your partner, or the way you and your partner have sex.
    The strategy is to, very gradually, use the new way more and more during any given sexual interaction. Most people like to start this experiment solo, but there is no reason you can’t do it with a partner too if you’re both comfortable with some experimentation.

    Start getting turned on the “old” way. But once arousal is building, switch it up. If arousal begins to fall and it is hard to get it to build again, shift back to the tried-and-true, but when possible, shift back again to the new way. Most people starting this experiment need to use the old way to tip over into orgasm at first, but the goal is to become able to get over the orgasmic threshold with the “new way”, which ideally is in some way significantly more similar to partnered sex.

    This is necessarily a gradual process, because it takes time to build a new neural pathway. And it generally feels frustrating; neurons have to literally find one another and connect in new ways.

    Having a therapist who can support this process can be very helpful. It is important to strike a balance between building the new neural pathway, and experiencing sexual pleasure without too much frustration. You can’t rush this process. Finding ways to stay steady, find patience, make it fun, and keep clear on why you’re doing this in the first place will be crucial.

    Whether you are thinking about this from the viewpoint of a therapist helping others, or a person wanting to increase your experience and ease with orgasm, ask yourself what neural pathway issues may be at play, and how you can start building diverse pathways towards more connected, satisfying, and flexible encounters.
    When Self-Pleasure Habits Get in the Way of Partnered Sex. The neuroscience behind our sexual patterns. Reviewed by Michelle Quirk KEY POINTS- The more ways you can experience sexual pleasure, and the more pleasure you can generate, the more likely you are to reach orgasm. When you bring yourself to orgasm in a specific way, you’re strengthening a neural pathway in your brain. It takes time to build a new neural pathway. If I could give one piece of sex advice to everyone, it would be this: “Switch it up on a regular basis!” The more ways you can develop for experiencing sexual pleasure, and the more pleasure you can generate, the more likely you are to reach orgasm, whether alone or with a partner. The more different routes you have to orgasm on your own, the more likely you will find a way to reach orgasm with a partner. And the more different routes you have to orgasm with a partner, the more likely you are to experience pleasure even when life throws a wrench into things and certain activities aren’t possible for one reason or another. Most people who reliably reach orgasm have one primary way of doing so. It is perfectly understandable that people go with what works; why argue with success? Our cultural expectation seems to be that sex isn’t “real sex” unless there is an orgasm, and not only that, an orgasm that someone else “gave” us. So once we figure out how to “give our partner an orgasm”, we tend to stick with that strategy rather than continue to explore and risk not “getting it right”, “being a bad lover” or just missing the orgasm entirely some of the time. Here’s the problem: the more you focus on just one way of reaching orgasm or experiencing pleasure, the more likely you are to get stuck in a rut. When you bring yourself to orgasm in a specific way, you’re strengthening a neural pathway in your brain. Every time you do the same thing, that pathway gets stronger. Unless you switch it up and cultivate other ways of reaching orgasm, it becomes harder and harder to do so in any other way. There are lots of ways this might look: I self-pleasure by rubbing myself against something, and I can’t get that same feeling and reach orgasm with a partner I self-pleasure while watching porn, and find it hard to reach orgasm with a partner I can’t reach orgasm without a particular fantasy, and that makes me uncomfortable; I’d rather be able to do it without that particular fantasy I self-pleasure dry (or with a tight hand), and then when I have penis-in-vagina sex with my partner, the sensation just isn’t strong enough to get over the edge All of these examples point to a particular pathway to orgasm, involving a combination of thoughts, images, novel stimuli, types of touch, amount of slipperiness, amount of pressure, broad versus specific stimulation, etc. The key to shifting a habitual neural pathway to orgasm is to start to change it up. Let me be clear; this is not always easy, nor is it something most people can accomplish quickly. That’s why an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure! If you already have multiple ways you can experience high levels of sexual pleasure, make sure to use all of them to get to orgasm, not just the easiest one. And if you are in a rut, consider what is different between the way you most easily reach orgasm and the way you and your partner have sex. Think about all the components of the interaction. Then begin experimenting with shifting one or two things more toward a sensation or visual stimulation that partnered sex can match. Here are some specific suggestions: If you watch porn, watch just one video all the way through rather than clicking between many. Get used to arousal ebbing and flowing, and returning, even when the “action” is a little slower and less novel If you touch yourself without lube, try using lube. Partner sex is often slicker than solo sex, although not always. If the opposite is true, try using less lube. If you rub against something, try placing your hand between the object and your body. Gradually shift how much of the sensation is coming from diffuse pressure versus your hand moving, or specific touch. If you have a favorite fantasy, see if you can develop a second-runner-up fantasy. See if you can come up with one that has some things in common with sexy aspects of your partner, or the way you and your partner have sex. The strategy is to, very gradually, use the new way more and more during any given sexual interaction. Most people like to start this experiment solo, but there is no reason you can’t do it with a partner too if you’re both comfortable with some experimentation. Start getting turned on the “old” way. But once arousal is building, switch it up. If arousal begins to fall and it is hard to get it to build again, shift back to the tried-and-true, but when possible, shift back again to the new way. Most people starting this experiment need to use the old way to tip over into orgasm at first, but the goal is to become able to get over the orgasmic threshold with the “new way”, which ideally is in some way significantly more similar to partnered sex. This is necessarily a gradual process, because it takes time to build a new neural pathway. And it generally feels frustrating; neurons have to literally find one another and connect in new ways. Having a therapist who can support this process can be very helpful. It is important to strike a balance between building the new neural pathway, and experiencing sexual pleasure without too much frustration. You can’t rush this process. Finding ways to stay steady, find patience, make it fun, and keep clear on why you’re doing this in the first place will be crucial. Whether you are thinking about this from the viewpoint of a therapist helping others, or a person wanting to increase your experience and ease with orgasm, ask yourself what neural pathway issues may be at play, and how you can start building diverse pathways towards more connected, satisfying, and flexible encounters.
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  • DOPAMINE-
    The Pursuit of Pleasure.
    How can we maximize pleasure?
    Reviewed by Vanessa Lancaster

    KEY POINTS-
    Short-term pleasures such as eating and sexual activity promote our survival as a species.
    Pursuing long-term pleasures, including those derived from supportive social interactions, may help strengthen society.
    A “pleasure dividend” can result from a long-term investment in a meaningful activity.

    Humans likely are geared to seek pleasure to guide our behavior. Short-term pleasures such as eating and sexual activity ensure that we engage in activities that promote our survival as a species. I believe that long-term pleasure derived from activities such as creative expression, industrious work, participation in athletics, and long-term social interactions help strengthen the social fabric of society, which can promote our longevity and success.

    Philosophers have discussed the reasons for pleasure for more than two millennia. The Greek philosopher Epicurus (341-270 BCE) suggested that pleasure was the highest good and represented the ultimate goal in life. Aristotle (384-322 BCE) believed that pleasure is the byproduct of virtuous behavior, and both he and Confucius (551-479 BCE) emphasized that we should pursue it in moderation. Christian theologian Thomas Aquinas (1225-1274 CE) viewed pleasure as a gift from God that should be used according to God’s will.

    On the other hand, Christian theologian St. Augustine (354-430 CE) believed pleasure represented a temptation that led people away from God, and Buddha (563-483 BCE) suggested the desire for pleasure was the source of suffering.

    Dopamine is one of the brain neurotransmitters that strengthens pleasurable experiences triggered by our brain’s reward system. Thus, dopamine release as a result of activities that we find pleasurable reinforces the continuation of such activities. Unfortunately, humans have discovered ways of triggering dopamine release, such as drug use, that leads to harmful behaviors.

    If we ask ourselves how we might maximize pleasure in our lives, the answer likely lies in balancing activities that lead to short-term and long-term pleasures. Personal preferences, lifestyle, previous experiences, and cultural considerations affect our choice of activities that we find pleasurable. Further, we should avoid pleasure traps that can derail our lives. Finally, we should also consider the concept of a “pleasure dividend” that arises from contemplating past long-term pleasures.

    Short-Term Pleasures
    Eating, drinking, and satiety of hunger lead to short-term pleasures that we begin to experience immediately after birth.

    Endorphins released during exercise help promote physical activity, which is essential for maintaining good health.

    Sexual expression brings pleasure that motivates us to reproduce.
    Relaxation, including meditation, hypnosis, prayer, and yoga, can lead to pleasure by releasing stress or tension.

    Playing video games, checking our social media, gambling, watching movies, listening to music, going to amusement parks, shopping, applying makeup, or other self-grooming activities are different sources of short-term pleasure.

    Long-Term Pleasures
    Research has shown that people who engage in meaningful social interactions live longer and healthier. Perhaps this is why we derive pleasure from the development of good family relationships, friendships, and teams, and belonging to groups, such as fans of music, sports, and theater, being members of organizations such as fraternities, sororities, or those devoted to volunteer activities to help others or worship. Intraspecies' social interactions with pets can bring pleasure from companionship and love.

    Pursuing hobbies can bring pleasure from being part of a group of hobbyists or developing expertise in a field, such as collecting stamps or coins or being involved with cars or motorcycles, including driving, racing, or customizing.

    Traveling and spending time in nature (including hiking, fishing, and bird watching) to explore new cultures and places can lead to multisensory pleasures, including exposure to novel sights, sounds, and tastes.

    The creative arts, including writing, painting, sculpting, woodworking, photography, and music, lead to the pleasure associated with self-expression and sometimes with sharing creative works. Cooking, gardening, and home improvement projects can also be elevated to pleasurable creative activities.

    Whether competitive or not, participation in athletic activities can help develop long-term pleasure. Team sports can augment sports-related exhilaration because of players’ support of one another. Adventure sports, such as bungee jumping, sky diving, or rock climbing, can be associated with even more pleasure because of the adrenaline rush that occurs with the perception of increased risk.

    Life-long learning through attending classes, reading, watching videos, or apprenticeships can bring pleasure through personal growth and self-discovery.

    Pleasure Traps
    Pleasure traps typically involve short-term pleasures that are pursued excessively and can impact our lives adversely.

    Examples of such traps include drug use (including excessive use of alcohol, nicotine, cannabis, stimulants, depressants, hallucinogens, and narcotics.) Obviously, drug addiction can completely consume lives and lead to early death. People also are harmed by developing a dependence on drugs to avoid dealing with life challenges. Drugs can also damage physical and mental health.

    The use of pornography is yet another pleasure trap that has become ubiquitous because of easy access to the internet. Adverse effects of pornography can range from developing an addiction to porn, development of anxiety and depression due to an inability to cease the use of porn, to causing an inability to function well in real-life sexual encounters.

    Other pleasure traps include the excessive pursuit of short-term pleasures such as eating, which can lead to obesity, and engagement in frequent novel sexual encounters, with the associated risks affecting physical health (e.g., venereal disease), and mental health (e.g., inability to develop long-term, meaningful relationships). Gambling addiction has been a long-standing pleasure trap. Social media and video game addictions are modern traps that can lead to poor academic performance and inadequate development of social skills.

    During puberty, adolescents appear to have a lower level of dopamine in their brains, which may fuel their desire to engage in riskier, more dangerous behavior to achieve pleasure (Arain, 2013).

    Another form of a pleasure trap involves deriving pleasure from viewing or participating in negative events, including violent behavior or infliction of pain.

    Pleasure Dividends
    A form of pleasure that has not been widely described is the pleasure achieved from recalling an activity that led to long-term pleasure. I refer to this pleasure as a dividend as it results from a long-term investment in a meaningful activity.

    For example, thinking back about the feelings experienced during a championship sports competition, during a get-together of a close family or friends, or after completing a long-term goal such as writing a book can bring great pleasure.

    Takeaway
    Maximizing pleasure in our lives involves balancing short-term and long-term pleasures while being mindful of the additional benefit from achieving pleasure dividends and the need to avoid harm caused by pleasure traps.
    DOPAMINE- The Pursuit of Pleasure. How can we maximize pleasure? Reviewed by Vanessa Lancaster KEY POINTS- Short-term pleasures such as eating and sexual activity promote our survival as a species. Pursuing long-term pleasures, including those derived from supportive social interactions, may help strengthen society. A “pleasure dividend” can result from a long-term investment in a meaningful activity. Humans likely are geared to seek pleasure to guide our behavior. Short-term pleasures such as eating and sexual activity ensure that we engage in activities that promote our survival as a species. I believe that long-term pleasure derived from activities such as creative expression, industrious work, participation in athletics, and long-term social interactions help strengthen the social fabric of society, which can promote our longevity and success. Philosophers have discussed the reasons for pleasure for more than two millennia. The Greek philosopher Epicurus (341-270 BCE) suggested that pleasure was the highest good and represented the ultimate goal in life. Aristotle (384-322 BCE) believed that pleasure is the byproduct of virtuous behavior, and both he and Confucius (551-479 BCE) emphasized that we should pursue it in moderation. Christian theologian Thomas Aquinas (1225-1274 CE) viewed pleasure as a gift from God that should be used according to God’s will. On the other hand, Christian theologian St. Augustine (354-430 CE) believed pleasure represented a temptation that led people away from God, and Buddha (563-483 BCE) suggested the desire for pleasure was the source of suffering. Dopamine is one of the brain neurotransmitters that strengthens pleasurable experiences triggered by our brain’s reward system. Thus, dopamine release as a result of activities that we find pleasurable reinforces the continuation of such activities. Unfortunately, humans have discovered ways of triggering dopamine release, such as drug use, that leads to harmful behaviors. If we ask ourselves how we might maximize pleasure in our lives, the answer likely lies in balancing activities that lead to short-term and long-term pleasures. Personal preferences, lifestyle, previous experiences, and cultural considerations affect our choice of activities that we find pleasurable. Further, we should avoid pleasure traps that can derail our lives. Finally, we should also consider the concept of a “pleasure dividend” that arises from contemplating past long-term pleasures. Short-Term Pleasures Eating, drinking, and satiety of hunger lead to short-term pleasures that we begin to experience immediately after birth. Endorphins released during exercise help promote physical activity, which is essential for maintaining good health. Sexual expression brings pleasure that motivates us to reproduce. Relaxation, including meditation, hypnosis, prayer, and yoga, can lead to pleasure by releasing stress or tension. Playing video games, checking our social media, gambling, watching movies, listening to music, going to amusement parks, shopping, applying makeup, or other self-grooming activities are different sources of short-term pleasure. Long-Term Pleasures Research has shown that people who engage in meaningful social interactions live longer and healthier. Perhaps this is why we derive pleasure from the development of good family relationships, friendships, and teams, and belonging to groups, such as fans of music, sports, and theater, being members of organizations such as fraternities, sororities, or those devoted to volunteer activities to help others or worship. Intraspecies' social interactions with pets can bring pleasure from companionship and love. Pursuing hobbies can bring pleasure from being part of a group of hobbyists or developing expertise in a field, such as collecting stamps or coins or being involved with cars or motorcycles, including driving, racing, or customizing. Traveling and spending time in nature (including hiking, fishing, and bird watching) to explore new cultures and places can lead to multisensory pleasures, including exposure to novel sights, sounds, and tastes. The creative arts, including writing, painting, sculpting, woodworking, photography, and music, lead to the pleasure associated with self-expression and sometimes with sharing creative works. Cooking, gardening, and home improvement projects can also be elevated to pleasurable creative activities. Whether competitive or not, participation in athletic activities can help develop long-term pleasure. Team sports can augment sports-related exhilaration because of players’ support of one another. Adventure sports, such as bungee jumping, sky diving, or rock climbing, can be associated with even more pleasure because of the adrenaline rush that occurs with the perception of increased risk. Life-long learning through attending classes, reading, watching videos, or apprenticeships can bring pleasure through personal growth and self-discovery. Pleasure Traps Pleasure traps typically involve short-term pleasures that are pursued excessively and can impact our lives adversely. Examples of such traps include drug use (including excessive use of alcohol, nicotine, cannabis, stimulants, depressants, hallucinogens, and narcotics.) Obviously, drug addiction can completely consume lives and lead to early death. People also are harmed by developing a dependence on drugs to avoid dealing with life challenges. Drugs can also damage physical and mental health. The use of pornography is yet another pleasure trap that has become ubiquitous because of easy access to the internet. Adverse effects of pornography can range from developing an addiction to porn, development of anxiety and depression due to an inability to cease the use of porn, to causing an inability to function well in real-life sexual encounters. Other pleasure traps include the excessive pursuit of short-term pleasures such as eating, which can lead to obesity, and engagement in frequent novel sexual encounters, with the associated risks affecting physical health (e.g., venereal disease), and mental health (e.g., inability to develop long-term, meaningful relationships). Gambling addiction has been a long-standing pleasure trap. Social media and video game addictions are modern traps that can lead to poor academic performance and inadequate development of social skills. During puberty, adolescents appear to have a lower level of dopamine in their brains, which may fuel their desire to engage in riskier, more dangerous behavior to achieve pleasure (Arain, 2013). Another form of a pleasure trap involves deriving pleasure from viewing or participating in negative events, including violent behavior or infliction of pain. Pleasure Dividends A form of pleasure that has not been widely described is the pleasure achieved from recalling an activity that led to long-term pleasure. I refer to this pleasure as a dividend as it results from a long-term investment in a meaningful activity. For example, thinking back about the feelings experienced during a championship sports competition, during a get-together of a close family or friends, or after completing a long-term goal such as writing a book can bring great pleasure. Takeaway Maximizing pleasure in our lives involves balancing short-term and long-term pleasures while being mindful of the additional benefit from achieving pleasure dividends and the need to avoid harm caused by pleasure traps.
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