If it does, that could mean you’re a wolf in sheep’s clothes. But in a positive way. You didn’t come to eat the sheep but to be their friend and valued co-worker.  

On the other side, if you don’t like to voice your opinions, what’s holding you back? Do you fear embarrassment, or you don’t care enough, or something else completely? 

Maybe work on the underlying reasons so you, too, can become a speaker at some point and not just a listener. 

Let’s see what else we got.

7) You can accept constructive criticism

This is a big one. One that I’ve struggled with in the past and still have issues with. 

Can you accept constructive criticism and feedback without becoming defensive or taking it personally? Do you see feedback as an opportunity for growth and improvement? 

If that’s so, you’re a better person than I am. It also means you think highly of other people and what they have to say and contribute to the table. 

However, even though you know how to properly accept (warranted) critique, it doesn’t mean you don’t stand up for yourself. 

8) You stand up for yourself

Confident people know when and how to advocate for themselves and assertively communicate their needs, desires, and goals. 

They aren’t afraid to negotiate what they want, ask for a raise or promotion, or advocate for their rights and interests. 

It’s so much easier going through life with this, I would call it, skill. Especially if you also do the next thing.

9) You take ownership of mistakes

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve met someone that doesn’t take ownership of their mistakes. I mean, just look at politicians. They’re the perfect example. They blame everyone else or completely deflect. 

If you are able to take ownership of mistakes and admit you were wrong, that makes you a good person in my book. If only more people would look up to you and do the same. 

10) You establish boundaries

Saying “no” is one of the most difficult things to do for many people. They feel the slightest peer pressure, and they fold. This usually means working overtime and on weekends, staying in lousy relationships, and raising spoiled children.

Not you! You aren’t afraid to say “no” when necessary and prioritize your own needs and well-being. That’s something you learned early on, and you stuck with it. 

Setting boundaries is incredibly important in today’s world when we are expected to be ON the entire time and respond immediately to messages. Here are some tips on how to set them:

• Identify them first
• Communicate them assertively
• Be consistent
• Anticipate challenges
• Learn to say “no”

11) You embrace discomfort 

Saying “no” to your boss doesn’t mean you don’t say “yes” to new and exciting activities and opportunities. Although you don’t necessarily show this to others, you are thrilled when new possibilities arise. 

This is a strong indication of assertiveness and confidence. Taking calculated risks is what most successful people do too, so you’re in great company. 

You also understand that this is where real growth occurs and not in safe situations. Instead of shying away from difficult circumstances, you face them head-on. 

Final thoughts

Showing our confidence to the outside world is something most of us should work on. Being confident is attractive and makes people believe you. This is important for success and for making connections with others. 

Besides, by learning what traits consistently successful people have, you, too, can become one.