The Benefits of Kid Chores. Personal Perspective: Chores are more than just child's play. Reviewed by Monica Vilhauer

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KEY POINTS-

  • Toddlers and preschoolers are developmentally ready to engage in necessary household tasks.
  • Kids with chores have boosted self esteem and valuable life skills that will help them as adults.
  • Sons with chores promote gender equity as future men who balance the unpaid labor of managing a household.

My five-year-old clambered onto the kindergarten bus, wearing a backpack almost as big as him. My three-year-old twin sons and I waved goodbye as the bus zoomed off, and we walked back to our home. It was a garbage/recycling pickup day, and our now empty four-foot-tall garbage can totes stood at the end of our driveway. I grasped each handle to roll the totes back up to the house as I always do, but my sons stopped me:

“Don’t worry mom, we got it!”

Happily giggling, each boy grabbed a tote handle. The totes towered over each boy.

Awkwardly, yet ultimately successfully, each boy wheeled each tote back up to their usual resting place in our garage. Their pride at helping their mom was palpable; I couldn’t stop smiling. After all the years of tending to my twin sons’ every need, now they were turning the tables and helping me.

 

As a pediatrician, I view child development through an ages and stages approach. If you’ve watched a toddler with a smartphone, you can see that young children love to emulate, imitate, and help the grownups around them. Chores can and should start early. Begun in preschool years, sharing in the work of home chores becomes a lifelong habit and normalizes teamwork in maintaining a home. Boys and girls who help with daily tasks get a boost in self-esteem, take pride in a job well done, and grow into young men and women who are equal stakeholders in the unpaid labor of running a home, promoting gender equity. Despite the benefit of chores, somehow, American children are getting less of them. A national Braun Research survey in 2014 showed that while 82 percent of grown-ups polled said they had regular chores when growing up, only 28 percent reported assigning their own kids chores.

 

All too often, we parents in our busy work and personal lives take on tasks ourselves, in the belief that the job will be handled faster or more efficiently by a grownup. This is a mistake. There’s the short run and then there is the long view: Yes, it takes more time to prepare a meal if you’re teaching a six-year-old how to add ingredients or flip a pancake, but the dividends pay off when you have a tween or teen preparing a simple meal for himself or others. Meal prep and home care are life skills that our kids need as adults.

 

A 12-year-old will not wake up one day and ask to scrub a toilet. Take advantage of the willing eagerness of preschoolers and start your kids at a young age. From a practical standpoint, those of us with bigger families (I have four kids) simply have more work to do, so a division of labor is win-win: Chores instill self-esteem and life skills, promote gender equity, and split up the labor. An additional note: It’s tempting as our kids grow into the tween and teen years, with schedules filled with extracurriculars and sports, for parents to handle home chores on the kids’ behalf to lighten their load. Kids, especially our sons, need to understand that the unpaid labor of home chores is a regular part of life, not an occasional exception, and that chores are not “beneath” them. A son who contributes to home chores will become a man who contributes equally in the household. Thankfully, research is showing a more equitable distribution of household labor (citation below).

 

At the time of this writing, my three sons are now in college. My oldest came home for a brief break, and while I was working a 12-hour clinic day, he texted me: “Do you know where the cake stand is?” He and my youngest decided to bake a chocolate espresso cake from scratch “just because.” I’ll add that this project included washing all dishes and a tidy workspace, as my kitchen philosophy during my kids’ tween and teen years was “you can cook whatever you like, as long as you clean it up.” All those early days of flour spills and extra cleanup more than paid themselves off in getting to come home after a long work day and taste the sweet dividends of years of parenting investment.

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